Robert Palmer sang “you know you’re gonna have to face it, you’re addicted to love,” as it turns out according to a recently published study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine wherein 20 studies were examined to determine the effects of sex and love on the body, he was right. The insula and the striatum are areas in the brain responsible for tracking the way in which human sexual desire evolves into feelings of love. While lust triggers the parts of the brain responsible for the pleasurable feelings we experience through sex, love activates the parts of the brain that controls habitual behavior over time.”The change from desire to love is the bonding mechanism in relationships,”says lead author of the study Concordia Psychology Professor Jim Pfaus.He continued, “we assign different language to love and sexual desire and addiction, but really, they’re all being processed in a similar place. When we see this, the idea of love at first sight probably isn’t true. People are feeling desire.”

   Our brains process love the same as it does habits over time. After lust may come love. Feelings of love transfer to the region of the brain that controls habits and reward patterns.This is the exact same pattern that occurs when people become addicted to drugs.

“Habits usually get a bad reputation, but it’s an important thing that the brain imposes. The change from desire to love is the bonding mechanism in relationships. So, really, drug addiction is an embellished expression of something perfectly normal,” said Pfaus. Bonding mechanisms influence monogamy, create connectedness, and activate us to defend our mate and offspring’s interests.The downside to this mechanism of lust potentially turning into love is that a good relationship requires more than desire and genetic compatibility, which means partners who are otherwise ill suited may wind up having their lust develop into love via habituation.

   These findings explain in part why is often difficult to end a relationship that is unhealthy or that we’ve out grown. Given that the regions of the brain triggered when in love are the same as those responsible for addiction it makes sense that when relationships end some people experience physiological pain as withdrawal, their thinking becomes obsessively focused on their former mate, and they may loose interest in normal pleasures and even basic needs. Luckily for most people with time this diffuses and they are able to move on.

Author: Darlene Turner

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